nature – Old Soul Medicine Crow

Turtle the Chimney “Sweep”

October 4, 2025 Old Soul Medicine Crow4 Comments

On Monday as I was leaving the office I found, at the bottom of the steps outside our back door, a mother and her teenage daughter mulling over what to do about an injured bird. As our steps lead almost directly to the street, the bird had possibly been hit by a car. It was stunned with one wing oddly askew like it might be broken. I stopped to assess the damage. It was as if we all knew, the mother, the daughter, me and maybe even the bird that I was the one taking it home.

The mother and daughter wouldn’t know this but I had once successfully raised a baby crow who lived voluntarily in our trees for quite a while after it fledged. I could come outside and yell its name and down it flew to land on my arm for a snack. After I thought it was grown and gone it twice returned injured for a safe place to recover. But that was a baby I’d once fed mashed up worms. It remembered it’s mama Crow. Crows have long memories. This bird, which I first thought was a swallow and later proved to be a chimney swift, hadn’t intentionally sought me out…or had it. Injured animals seem to gravitate toward me. I used to take evening walks to the local courthouse to watch the swifts come in. We called them “sweeps”. My work office is less than one block from that same courthouse. The bird had been injured and landed in the path I take every day. Unbeknownst to me a co-worker had seen it four hours earlier and had decided to leave it but check on it later. Then, the mother/daughter duo worried over it but had no intentions of touching or moving it. I am no stranger to animal rescue. I immediately picked it up. Because of Covid I still had plastic gloves readily available. Thanks to the Beverly Hillbillies there is probably a whole slew of women my age who grew up with the nickname Ellie May for their propensity to capture injured animals and try to nurse them back to health. That’s what Mom called me but I was rarely successful. Nature is a great teacher.

It was a hard lesson to learn but it’s often better to let nature take its course…unless I know there is something I can do. I am quicker to recognize impending death these days. But I still can’t leave the dying to die alone. In this case, my instinct to take the bird might have also been driven by my attempt to relieve the mother’s guilt for disappointing a brooding teenage daughter. I could tell they both needed to think they had done all they could. I could give them that. I took the bird because that’s what I do. I couldn’t let it lay in the gravel and grass until a neighborhood cat decided to make it a toy, or the sun dehydrated it. I thought at the very least, I’d give its death some dignity. It wouldn’t be the first time I’d provided this service. Death Doula to people and animals. Even as I placed it in a cardboard box, I dreaded telling my boyfriend/housemate about our new roomy. He wasn’t around for my dog rescue days so he may not be fully aware of my proclivities to drag in injured animals.

First, I took it to the same veterinarian who helped me with dog rescue to see if its wing was indeed broken. “Looks like it is fractured,” she confirmed. She did not set bird wings but gave me the name of another veterinarian who treated birds. Selfishly I wondered what it might cost and if I was willing to bear that cost. Domestic pets, it turns out, are the only birds veterinarians treat. I called three vets who all said to call wildlife rescue. The only wildlife rescue I could find informed me their Kentucky affiliates had no permit for songbirds which meant the swift and I were on our own. As I write this, it occurs to me, my daughter is attending the latest Taylor Swift Album release in a movie theater. She is decidedly a “swiftie”. I have never listened to Taylor Swift’s music but this little bird has turned me into a “swiftie” as well. Its slim cigar-like torso and pointed wings, the gray top feathers melting into a snowy underside and the sweet way it turned its head to look directly at me when I held it in front of my face or slowly closed its eyes when I stroked its back, made me fall in love. Its beak was as delicate and tiny and black as the tip of a cat’s toenails, but not curved. Looking straight on, its eyes and short bill resembled the face of a turtle, so that’s what I called it. Turtle. It should be said that both sexes look alike in this species and I have no way of knowing whether Turtle was male or female. I deemed her female for no good reason at all.

I hate that we rely on google for so much of our information these days but it is a wealth of knowledge. I did read in my old-fashioned bird books as much as I could about the species, but they don’t tell what to do if you find one with a broken wing. Anyway, google said to keep it still and in a dark place to prevent further injury and then immediately take it to wildlife rescue. Immediately. So much for that advice. I did start it out in a small cardboard box with a makeshift nest of dried grass. The way it climbed up and positioned itself on the side of the box made me research further and realize it was a chimney swift. Whenever I picked it up, its talons clung to my finger like a baby’s first instinct to grasp, another tip that it was a swift. Turns out chimney swifts don’t perch on branches like other birds. They fly for hours or even days at a time, taking their food on the wing. They are aerial acrobats, almost always moving. Most of their diet consists of flying insects so they are extremely beneficial to humans in that way, cleaning up mosquitos and other pests. When they do land for the evening or to make a nest, they cling to the inside of a hollow tree…or a chimney or other tunnel-like structure. Their clinging feet are necessary to adhere to vertical, sometimes slick, surfaces. I anthropomorphized this grasping behavior as if the bird were holding onto me for its very life. That kind of oxytocin release reminded me of all the dog rescue I engaged in during my empty nest years.

Hundreds of dogs I took home from the shelter, bathed and housed. (All dogs come home from the shelter with the same foul odor.) It only took the first bath after leaving the shelter for a dog to follow me faithfully and make me their person. I knew what I was doing while I was doing it—avoiding the pain of my daughter’s impending exit, the truth of my dysfunctional marriage—but I ran into all kinds of rescue folk over the years who were unaware of the lonely hole they were desperately trying to fill. It’s easy to believe an animal loves you when you’ve intervened on their behalf. For the most part, I kept my head about me. The veterinarians I worked with liked my ability to be realistic. Once I knew a dog’s personality, I ran a match-making service with local families to place it in a forever home. I became addicted to learning each personality and it’s true the feel-good sensation of unconditional love is immeasurable. Rescue work is rewarding, but dirty and filled with harsh realities.

I was right about my boyfriend’s response. Gregg was mostly concerned about diseases and insisted I disinfect every place I’d even set the box. I explained that the bird was in a small box which was inside a bigger box so there were two layers between it and any surface. He didn’t buy it. I googled again to find that chimney swifts aren’t known for carrying diseases and are no threat to humans. Sometimes their nests attract mites but I had no nest. Histoplasmosis is a fungus that can grow in bird poop once it has composted but it doesn’t exist in the poop itself as it comes from the bird. I hoped this might waylay Gregg’s fears but I doubted he’d be any happier. He insisted I leave the bird and its box outside.

I wondered how I was going to feed “Turtle”. They prefer to catch insects in the air but that was not likely from inside a box. Although I did catch a couple of spiders and a fly for her. She was either not impressed or still in shock from the jolt that upended her carefree existence. The book said when insects were scarce swifts would eat seeds or berries so I placed both in a shallow dish alongside a saucer of water. I knew not to force feed with a dropper for fear of setting up pneumonia but I did offer a droplet near her mouth and it opened for two swallows of water.

After the first night, I thought the tiny bird needed some daylight to inspire its recovery. I didn’t have a bird cage but I exchanged its dark box for a small cat carrier. I attached hardware cloth on the door’s grid to prevent escape or the patient’s cock-eyed wing from getting stuck through the openings. The new space brought new movement. That screened door became her favorite roosting spot since it was easy to hold onto. I still couldn’t tell if she was eating but the food got dispersed as she moved about the cage so at least she knew it was there. Gregg knew I was concerned and joked that I could tie its feet to a string and swing it in the air to catch insects. He thinks he’s funny. But then he did have an interesting idea of putting a piece of fruit in the cage to attract insects, which I tried.

I didn’t have any real expectation that the bird would live. I thought at most it wouldn’t die by predator. But as one day turned to two and then three with more activity each day, I started to think of possibilities. I decided I’d give it a couple more days in the cat carrier and graduate it to a dog crate. I have a large one left from my humane society days because with me, you never know. I would create a chimney in one corner so it could roost properly and if I saw it gliding down from there, even for two wing flutters, I would find a safe place to open the cage and see if it could take flight. Then, I worried that it would live but not fly. Was I prepared for long-term care? What kind of life would it be to go from aerial freedom to living in a cage? Neither of us wanted that. I envisioned building a greenhouse, something I’d been wanting anyway, so it could have some semblance of an outdoor life. It was curious to me how many images google had of chimney swifts sitting in the palm of someone’s hand. I had taken that picture myself. Most bird pictures aren’t featured in someone’s hand. Do people make pets of them? I read that some swifts have been known to live as long as 12 years in the right conditions, yet the average lifespan is about two years. I had no idea how old this bird was. She looked so young and delicate to me yet she was the size of a full grown swift.

Then, on Thursday night, she died. It had been her most active morning and I’d seen her climbing the wire door in the middle of the day but by nightfall, she lay face down on the bottom of the cage. She could have starved but she pooped every day so I thought not. Maybe her body couldn’t take the shock. My guess after the fact is that she had an infection which I had not known to treat. I know she would have died anyway, without my intervention. Still, I wish I could have done better by her. I really don’t know how I would have administered antibiotics but I will think about it next time…because…there will be a next time.

I am grateful to Turtle for bringing me a whole new awareness and appreciation for chimney swifts. They are amazing creatures with a soft heart and a gentle soul. I don’t know if I made what was left of her life better or worse, but I know this: Death is a sacred act. I have witnessed it many times, with humans and with animals. It is sad to say goodbye, but it is an honor and a privilege to hold space in those last holy moments. At least she didn’t die alone. Fly away, little Turtle, fly away.

Nature-The News to Watch

July 19, 2024 Old Soul Medicine Crow3 Comments

Anyone who knows me enough to talk to me knows I’ve been obnoxiously in love with my garden over the last two years. “What have you been doing lately?” followed by “Let me tell you about my garden.” Maybe this is because I’ve always wanted to be the kind of person who raised and preserved her own food like my parents had or my friend Kim who makes it look easy. But it’s hard work so I’ve failed gardening miserably in the past, ambitiously planting but not keeping up with the weeds. It has taken me years to construct a system that works for me. One that doesn’t overwhelm me when crabgrass takes over. I’ve landed on a series of raised beds that I can tackle one at a time. Flowers here, vegetables there. Some perennials, some annuals. An aesthetically pleasing array, and, oh, the birds! My Merlin Bird Identifier registers 10-15 birds’ songs every morning. We have regular families of Mockingbirds, Cardinals, Redwing Blackbirds, Doves, Indigo Buntings, Flickers, Warblers, Finches, Wrens, Robins, and of course Crows and more. You name it, ours is rich with variety too many to name properly. I’ve even seen a Boston Oriole and a Yellow Billed Cuckoo! Working with the earth and nature spirits has been my saving grace. Something I can put my hard work and love into and reap the benefits. People will disappoint. Nature rarely does.

After building the raised beds, we hung cattle panel fencing around the garden with gates on three sides. I was so proud of my design I wanted to decorate it with more than flowers. I attached metal art panels on each of the gates and placed a gazing ball in the middle of my herbs, I hung a small metal birdhouse in the shape of an owl’s head with a small round opening for a mouth. A cruel joke but so very cute. From the top of its head was a dainty little chain and hook so I hooked this over a nail at the corner gatepost so I could see it from the house. I truly thought of this little owl as ornamental and not as a real bird house at all, or else I would have attached it with more vigor. Yet, all summer I have enjoyed watching a pair of Eastern Bluebirds return to this box time and again, climbing in and out of the owl’s mouth with dried grass from our compost or food for their babies. The box is eye level so I can sneak a peak each time I enter the garden.

From my usual spot on the back porch where I sit in the mornings with tea and a journal, or in the gloaming of day’s end, the garden with its little family of bluebirds is in my natural gaze. Behind them, a stand of cosmos. Beside me, a pair of binoculars. From my seat to the garden gate is approximately 50 feet. There is a boxelder tree between us that gives shade to the yard and holds a hammock. The garden gets full morning sun and then the tree protects that little metal birdhouse on the corner from getting too hot in the late afternoon. The first time I saw the birds furnishing their nest, I was a child again, only now I didn’t have to tiptoe or have my dad hold me up to see inside. Before long I was counting eggs, waiting for them to hatch. I watched each day as the couple took turns being in the box or keeping watch on the fence adjacent to it. Once I saw Papa fight off a larger bird that came too close. One evening when Mama and Papa bird must have been on a date or on a run to the grocery, I absentmindedly went to work in the garden without peaking at our babies and they squawked at me with their mouths wide open. If I’d had a worm, freshly chewed, I’d have dropped it in their eager beaks for sure. I felt like their nanny. I anticipated seeing them fledge any day and watched them closely so I could monitor my dogs’ activities and keep the little bundles of joy safe as they shored up their confidence. But the next afternoon, they were gone.

My first thought was not the grave one. Had they fledged during the night? Had I missed the flight while I was at work? Were my bluebirds so gifted at flying that they didn’t need practice? They were perfect, after all. Of course, I did land on the idea that something terrible had happened, after I went inside my garden fence to find a smattering of downy feathers peppering my beans.

The parents wasted no time cleaning out the box. Before long they were remodeling with new tufts of straw. I admired their tenacity. Maybe that’s how they grieve. I remember keeping myself busy when experiencing my own empty nest for the first time. And this gardening surge came along at a time when I needed the earth’s grounding and something to look forward to. Again, I watched their progress, counted their eggs and waited. In the meantime, I googled natural enemies and predators of the eastern bluebird. I found all kinds of ideas for protecting the box from predators.

We live in a healthy ecosystem on our farm by the river. We readily hear and see hawks, owls. We even had an eagle land in our yard once, but he was eating a groundhog. Too big for that little birdhouse. Rabbits are everywhere this year. I imagine that’s keeping the pack of coyotes happy who we mostly hear at night, down by the river. We watch parades of deer and turkey daily. We occasionally smell a skunk who’s perfume wafts in an open window at night and signals the dogs to bark. The peepers in the barn lot pond are deafening at times, especially if it’s going to rain. When I run the soaker hose in the tomatoes, I almost always see a fat bullfrog enjoying the puddles left from a leaky faucet.

I know there is death on the farm, I’ve witnessed it. Coyotes having Thanksgiving Turkey, Bobcats catching rabbits. Mockingbirds stalking and desecrating Luna Moths—which I find especially egregious. Sometimes the beauty and wonder of nature is so brutal it can break your heart wide open. What I haven’t mentioned is obvious. Google says the snake is #1 on the list of suspects. All of the friends to whom I’ve mentioned my bluebirds say, “Snake.” I say “I don’t think so.” Here’s why:

That smattering of feathers left behind. Another bird or a racoon would leave feathers behind but maybe a snake would swallow whole?
We mow about an acre all the way around our house and garden. We and/or the dogs are actively in the yard every day; claiming our territory.
The bullfrogs haven’t been snatched yet.
Most Important** and this is the kicker: I made a pact with their leader, a 6-plus foot black rat snake that I found on my porch one night (that’s another story) just after I moved in. I told her we had 140 acres here and if she would spread the word among her kind that I live in the house and the mowed part of the yard, they could choose their territories over the rest of the farm. The house had been sitting empty a few months. Maybe she had been delegated to check out the new neighbor. I requested she take the barn lot closest to the house to keep the poisonous snakes farther away. A rumor I’d heard but she said nothing, although she did as I’d suggested. She already understood the benefits of that location. I leave them alone. They leave me alone. We’re all happy.

This has been a good partnership for 12 years now. We sometimes see a random snake in a field, near the barn or on the road but for the most part not close enough to the house to have a reminder talk with them. I’ve only broken my end of the bargain once, last year, when I wanted an old wagon wheel for my herb garden. It was lying in a pile of antique farm equipment I call “the boneyard”. Several wheels and other pieces of antique mule driven farm equipment had been abandoned in the barn lot and overgrown in upstart trees, shrubs and tangles of honeysuckle since my dad traded his mules for a tractor in the early 70’s. It looks like where the 19th century went to die. I’ve seen my snake friend and her family there many times, on my walks. It’s the perfect location between a barn full of mice and a pond for frogs and drinking water. I knew I’d have to breech my contract with her but I hoped to be in and out without notice. Don’t get me wrong, I’m still scared of snakes. I don’t want to see one, and especially not be close enough to touch it, although I will give a snake a good talking to if I do see it. I’ve always known she was there and I’ve left her alone. I asked my companion to help me recover the easiest wheel I’d spotted and we donned our knee-high boots and work gloves and hiked over. As he pulled and cut and sawed through tough vines, I talked to her and apologized for coming into her home. I hoped she would forgive me. Turns out, she was wrapped around the very wheel we were pulling on. She disappeared quickly into the brush and we both jumped. I continued apologizing, profusely. I looked like a child hopping on one foot and then another while flicking my hands to shoo her away. I wondered then about payback but soon forgot as the spokes of the wagon wheel—lying flat on the ground—made a great dividing frame for my sage, rosemary, thyme and oregano.

My little bluebirds continued to teach me about persistence, making 2 more nests in a row. Again, I watched, counted, waited. Nothing. No more feathers were found but neither did I witness hatchlings learning to fly. The evidence was mounting but I hoped and decided that without seeing feathers, I’d simply missed their flights while at work. Three times! I was happy and surprised when the birds came back for a fourth time, cleaning, re-stocking, preparing.

A few days ago, I went out to enjoy the sounds of morning bird frenzy, as usual to collect a few minutes on a cool porch before the heat set in. Our days have been scorchers lately. To my surprise, dangling from the lowest tree limb of my backyard box elder, within ten feet and direct eyeshot of the owl’s open mouth, was the shed skin of a snake, about 3 feet long! Too bad the owl isn’t real. The skin did not belong to my friend the reptilian Queen, who I’d put in charge, because she is much longer than this interloper. One of her not so loyal subjects had snuck into forbidden territory!

As I sat, contemplating how to renegotiate peace talks, my partner told me he’d found a baby copperhead enjoying the heat of the compost pile about a month back. Although he’d killed the one he’d found I realized chaos had ensued without my knowledge!

“A baby?” I asked, “Only one? Are you sure there weren’t more?” Youngsters can go rogue without yet knowing the unwritten rules of their elders. That’s understandable. But as every old person says, this younger generation has a different set of values. Leaving the skin in both my view and that of the birdhouse, is a blatant show of disrespect. Also, I was aware this was supposed to be the year of the cicada invasion. Although our region hasn’t been the hardest hit, for months now, Rosie and Willow—otherwise known as dog patrol or affectionately “the girls”—have been staying out late to dig for beetles or cicadas or whatever other little crunchy larvae might be there. I’d read an article about snakes gathering beneath oak trees at night to eat the emerging cicadas and I hoped my girls were abating that possibility.

I wasn’t sure if Queen Rat Snake was dead, if there had been a coup for leadership, or perhaps she felt I owed her one after my breech into her territory last year. Maybe she decided staying out of my yard in a cicada year was too much for me to ask.

I went back to writing in my journal, listening to the usual morning rush of cardinals, jays and mockingbirds as they come into the garden for breakfast when I heard a flush of excitement. The bluebirds were back. They had spotted the skin and were sounding all the alarms. Mama was flapping her wings hard, hovering in front of the scaly replica, and if I had to guess cursing him mightily. I hoped she didn’t have a heart attack. I could almost feel how the realization hit her. Grieving her babies while finally getting closure for where they went. This brought Papa. They flew above it, below it, hovered in front of it, flapping their wings and yelling as if to scare it away. It didn’t budge, of course, except for wavering in the wind. The birds called in the cavalry and here came the flickers and mockingbirds, a larger line of defense. They too used their best scare tactics and sounded alarms which pulled in the officers—cardinals and jays. With all the sirens going off, it was the only show to watch, even the dogs were captivated. We were the rubberneckers at the scene of a crime; all traffic stopped. It seemed the teams had forgotten their colors and all acted as one unit to rid the area of this menace. They did all share the same feeders, after all. When the decomposing skin did not respond to their fury, except to sway with the breeze, they finally lost interest and gave it up for dead.

The skin still hangs as a reminder. My hammock chair also hangs in that tree. It’s the only tree I’ve got whose limbs are hammock or swing friendly. I’m not sure how long it will take me to sit there again, unsure what might be overhead. I know the bluebirds have not returned to their box. As with all trauma, it’s gonna take time. Well played Queen. I won’t be taking you for granted again.

Alchemy

February 26, 2024 Old Soul Medicine Crow4 Comments

Alchemy: a power or process that changes or transforms something in a mysterious or impressive way.

I went to dinner in Lexington with some women. Friends, and friends of friends. Three of them had birthdays in the same month so not only was there reason to celebrate, after dinner we were attending a reading by another friend who was celebrating the release of her latest book. A night out for the ladies.

Since we had gathered primarily for the literary arts, the dinner conversation began with literature. Who recently read what, which books are must reads, what we’re currently writing, and morphed into general story telling since most of us were writers of one form or another. One person’s story reminds someone else of a similar story, reminds another, and so it goes. In this instance, we traveled the world going from Chicago to Milan to New York and all the way back to Kentucky, where we all currently live. One theme that emerged was housing. From tiny squeeze-ins to expansive high-rise sublets to starter homes, the ladies spoke of lucky breaks, exigent circumstances and turning bad situations into good. I saw a theme emerging.

“Alchemy,” I said.

“What’s alchemy?” my friend asked. I explained poorly that it was a term referring to the medieval attempt to turn base metals into gold. But that today it also meant just what she had been saying, how she’d turned a bad situation into a good one.”

Then, “Martha’s” Kentucky story of purchasing a farmhouse without prior knowledge of the den of snakes who had taken up residence beneath the front stoop drew gasps from everyone.

“I’d have to back out of the sale,” one said.

“Or put it right back on the market,” another chimed in. “You didn’t stay there, did you? Is that where you live now?”

The fear of snakes always sparks eeks and cringes followed by other close encounter stories. I’d venture to guess we all have snake stories. These ladies all did. The fear of the serpent is likely the most common phobia. We love to hate these creatures.

I, too, am no fan and prefer not to get personal with a snake. I thought about reminding us all that snake symbolism was originally that of the divine feminine and that maybe we had been conditioned to fear snakes based on the patriarchal need to control the innate power of women. According to Ted Andrews’ book Animal Speak, seeing a snake denotes resurrection, renewal, rebirth (shedding of one’s skin to become anew). In dreams, simply encountering the snake is thought to be the subconscious awareness of a pending new cycle of life. Being overly afraid of the snake symbolizes fear of the changes necessary for internal growth. Getting bit might symbolize the level of resistance or blocks you’re throwing into your own path. I’ve had plenty of these dreams throughout my spiritual awakening journey as well as in person sightings. An explanation like this might be interesting, but it rarely does much to allay a well-honed fear of snakes. Thinking of the power of transformation, I juxtaposed one of my own snake stories instead.

I am the third generation of my family to inhabit the family farm, in a house that was built in 1901. Dad refurbished the house, mid-seventies. Insulation, Drywall, paneling, popcorn painted ceilings and area rugs turned the place around, even before electricity or plumbing was added. Instead, fireplaces, a Warm Morning stove, outdoor toilet and a rain barrel became our every summer adventure, heading back to a small abode with a thermostat and a real bathtub during the school year. We merrily frolicked at the river’s edge, raised cattle, pigs and chickens, the occasional mule, helped Dad with tobacco, hay, planting and harvesting vegetables, hunted arrowheads, shot BBguns, picked blackberries and maintained a healthy awareness of snakes like we lived in the 19^th century. In his head, my father sort of did. I was having the time of my life. Today, I am grateful for this character-building years-long sojourn into the past. My parents installed plumbing and a few other upgrades and moved into the farmhouse after all of us children were grown, around 1991.

In 2012, due to Mom’s cancer and other circumstances, my father bought a house closer to town and nearer to doctors and the hospital. The farm is isolated with sometimes inaccessible country roads. Since I was freshly divorced, he convinced me to take up residency on the farm so that the empty house would not get vandalized or become a drug den.

In the seventies, Dad didn’t believe in the future of electricity or otherwise could not envision the number of useless appliances the next generation would find not only convenient but necessary. He felt ahead of his time including two whole outlets per room. Re-learning how to live in an old house whose electricity has not been modernized to meet today’s standards and whose prior inhabitants had learned how to “make things work” without actually having them repaired, included several “combinations” of actions I needed to learn to keep the house running smoothly. Namely, deciphering the tangled web of which outlets in how many rooms, both upstairs and down, whose wiring led to the same 15-amp fuse. I should have bought stock in Buse fuses for the number of boxes I purchased and went through in those early months, grateful they still existed.

Another thing he made sure to tell me was about the relationship he had formed with a huge black rat snake that lived in the shed out back. As I’ve indicated, snakes aren’t even my favorite subject, but out of reverence to my father, I listened to his tutorial.

“You know I store feed in that building, for the cattle. Mice get in it and make a big mess. That big snake keeps the mice and rat population down so I like him being in there. He’s not poisonous and he never bothers me. When I go into the shed to retrieve the lawn mower I talk to him, warn him I’m coming in. He may be hanging from a rafter or laying on the ground someplace. I pull the riding mower out and start it up. When he hears the engine, he comes out and makes his way down toward the pond. I guess he’s getting a drink. I don’t see him again until after I’ve finished cutting grass. Later in the evening, when it’s quiet, I can sometimes see him returning to the building. We’ve been doing this for years. We made a deal.”

“Okay,” I tell him, “I can live with that.” Even though secretly I thought, okay then, I’m not going in that shed, which turned out to be impossible. So, I did indeed follow in my father’s footsteps and tried my hand at snake whispering, which might or might not sound more like clanging and banging and yelling warnings rather than actual whispers. I named the snake, Earl.

Dad cut more grass than the immediate area around the house. He had cleared and tamed almost an acre of land, to keep the snakes at bay, he’d said, even though he made exception for Earl. He thought it wise to claim territory separate from the wilder fields and fence rows that bordered the woodland’s edge to provide a clear view of encroaching wildlife. He advised me to do the same. But since he took his riding mower with him to the new house and I still only had a push mower, I hired a neighbor to keep my lawn tidy. I told him the snake story and asked if he could please respect my father’s wishes and look out for Earl. “It’s been there for years,” I tell him. “It doesn’t want to harm anyone.”

Vernon was on the lookout for Earl, no doubt. His first encounter with Dad’s rat snake shocked them both. He entered the shed looking for a weed eater. The lanky sentry hung from a rafter at eye level as he entered, probably wondering who the hell this guy thinks he is entering Herbert Crow’s field mouse buffet. After that, unbeknownst to me, Vernon began strapping on a sidearm before arriving to mow the grass.

After a month or two of cutting the grass with no further incidents I thought all was well. However, one day, Vernon gave in to his own fears and ignored my sentiment about the friendly cohabitant of my abode. He knocked on my door, and using a hoe to extend his reach and not actually touch the old guy, held out his conquered prey to me the way my dogs string out a dead rabbit on my doorstep…as a gift.

“That’s Earl,” I say, confused.

“Don’t worry, I got him,” Vernon said. “I hate me a snake. That’s why I carry this.” He proudly pointed to his waist band where he’d holstered the offending weapon. The story he told was just as my father had described, the snake heard the mower and came out of the building to head down to the pond, minding his own business. Only Vernon didn’t care where he was going. Seeing the snake, he chased it down with his lawn tractor, close enough to get a good shot with his pistol because he sure as hell wasn’t going to get off that mower and possibly get bit. He also wasn’t going to let it out of his sight for fear of where it might go…and…he didn’t want to miss. Poor Earl had made it all the way to the fence row, about to cross the threshold to safety before he felt the blow. Vernon was proud.

My father had warned me about the snake we’d named Earl. But we both failed to warn Earl about the viper named Vernon.

“Oh, that’s so sad,” said the lady who would have instantly sold Martha’s den-of-snakes’ house.

“I can’t believe he did that!” said another. “Did you let him keep mowing your lawn after that?”

“Do you hear how you have all changed your attitudes from loathing to compassion and concern for a snake?” I ask, “Now, that’s alchemy.”

Grow Where I’m Planted

February 16, 2024 Old Soul Medicine Crow6 Comments

I can be hard on myself, especially in winter when I’m not as productive. In any case, I knew better than to set myself up to fail with a new year’s resolution. But I do like to think of each new year as a fresh start, unscathed by failure, and filled with possibility. My adult daughter told me she was choosing one word to set a theme for the year. I liked that notion. After a day or so of discernment, the word that came to me was, “open”.

“Open”. Open to new ideas. Open to new opportunities. Open to new ways of seeing myself and others. Open to change or at least to be a tiny bit more flexible in my perceptions. Maybe even travel more.

I was invited to a friend’s annual birthday party which always occurs mid-January and can be quite a pick-me-up from the doldrums. On her sixtieth birthday, and every year since (more than 10), she has thrown herself a party. It is traditionally an all-women-all-day-sometimes all weekend affair. Fascinating female friends, new and old, from all walks of life come and go. There is food, drink, games, and lots of chatter. A full-grown slumber party, women of all ages schlepping around in pajamas, drinking wine. If you give in to it, it can be a time of empowerment and support. This year the party was limited to one all day affair so no pajamas but good food and plenty of wine.

I have never been the kind of person who could throw themselves a party although women should probably learn to celebrate themselves more. On my 60^th birthday (I’ll be 62 this summer), while the earth didn’t move like it did when I hit 42—and spent a decade trying to right wrongs and get my feet on solid ground—I did feel a slight shift in perception. Another course correction in my navigation system. I stated out loud to myself and to my closest people that I am in the fourth quarter, looking at my parents’ health and longevity. This gives me another 20, if I’m lucky. Possibly only 10 of those in reasonably good health and energy. I declared that if there was something I wanted to do, I would do it. Here I am, two years later, still trying to remind myself. It takes a long time to unlearn a way of being.

This party was my first social outing in weeks as I had been sick with Covid compounded by a sinus infection that refused to release my brain from its foggy prison. My work office closes down through the winter holidays so I guess it was a good time to be sick if I had to be. Still, I felt like I should have been reading and/or writing. Instead, I sat in a stupor for days. Unable to form a simple thought, I merely observed myself be sick. If I’d been trying to meditate—remove rampant thoughts from my head—I would have had monkey mind. In this case, it felt like my brain had been wiped clean. On the plus side, I’ve never slept so well or for so long at a time. I hoped, whether I intended it or not, having no thoughts for a suspended number of days worked as a clearinghouse to make room for a brighter year full of ideas and execution. I wasn’t really feeling social, but I went to support my friend and to be “open.”

The party was to begin around 10 AM. and last until 10 PM. I moved reluctantly through my house, readying myself for a long day of interaction. Stretchy, comfortable clothes. Black tourmaline beads on my right wrist to protect from taking on others’ negative energy. Rose quartz beads on my left to receive a positive flow of love. Blue lapis lazuli earrings for overall protection and positive energy. It couldn’t hurt. We are all made of matter. All matter vibrates at a specific frequency. The higher the vibration, the more positive the experience, like thoughts. Whether you believe in the vibrational energetic properties of gemstones or not, I believe setting intentions raises my vibrational experience. Rituals are powerful. It’s like an active meditation. Plus, I believe we find what we’re looking for. Raising our thoughts, raises our experiences. Since recently being sick of body and mind, I was feeling vulnerable and needed a little spiritual pick-me-up. Finally, properly attired, I started out the door shortly after noon reminding myself to be open.

Even if I was successful in raising my vibration, my starting point must have been pretty low. It was soon evident I was still in observation mode, hardly up to the challenge of real conversation.

As in years past, at some point during every party a circle is formed. Women take turns introducing themselves to the group. It used to be a game of telling three things, two truths and one lie. The other women in the circle tried to discern the lie. This year, the circle took a more organic conversational turn which included mysticism and spiritual journeys. From ketamine clinics to holitropic and effigy breathwork to shamanic drumming it was clear many of these women had begun the inner work of midlife, curious and open to spiritual growth and all the trending modalities. This was my wheelhouse. I started this deeper work two decades ago but even since the age of nine, I have been a spiritual seeker. When I was a beginner on my spiritual journey, I couldn’t wait to share my experiences and epiphanies but more and more since I turned 60, I have grown quieter. Maybe I’ve gained just enough wisdom to realize nobody wants to hear it. They have their own life to deal with. The circle was large. It seemed each woman spent at least 15-30 minutes sharing pieces of their best life. Places lived, jobs, interesting experiences, meeting famous people. This lasted all afternoon…hours it seemed. It was exhausting, really. While a few women opted out of the circle to graze the food table, I had grown roots on the couch, unable to free myself.

I know it was mostly because of my illness, but listening to the experiences of these women, their ability to move through life with a sense of autonomy, independence and direction, the jobs they’d had, the places they’d lived, temporarily thwarted my confidence.

My early path was traditional. Compared to the stories told, the choices I’d made felt small, unremarkable, cliche. For a writer, cliché is such a disappointment. Get married young, support husband’s career, raise children. And I might add here that I raised a stepson for many years before bearing my own child so that my child rearing years were prolonged, having raised not one, but two only children. It is worthy work and I don’t regret the dedication I gave to my family but like too many women of my generation and older, raising a family was my only purpose. I became a “we” before I became a “me”. And let me tell you, once entangled in a “we” situation, especially if one member of the “we” was not already a “me”, it is difficult to extract even a part of oneself without disassembling the whole.

**Sidebar: In my opinion, patriarchy has done a fine job selling the notion of marriage where “two become one” as a romantic notion rather than one of control. To me, it means one of the people (usually the woman) must disappear into the shadows of the other.

I can proudly say I added two responsible contributing members to society which is no small feat (even if they did need counseling, lol), but I kept nothing for myself during those years. No matter how much I’ve grown, how far I’ve come, or what I have overcome, for almost three decades, I had no personal ambition. I never even let myself dream of choices outside of what my family members needed or wanted. I don’t think I meant to be a martyr. I was more like someone who had been brainwashed (or brainwashed herself) to believe she was not worthy.

When it came my turn to speak, I was dumbfounded. Not only was my actual voice weakened and shaky, my thoughts were still foggy. Even the most worldly of women in attendance seemed inviting, kind, yet, I fell victim to the soul deadening act of comparison. At that moment, I did not measure up. I rambled a bit. I got emotional. I passed the torch. Then, I spent two days analyzing my reaction…like any neurotic memoirist would.

I meditated on those circle conversations, discerning what it was exactly that had set me off. No matter their life’s journeys, many of these women were just beginning the spiritual inner work that I had embarked on years ago. I wasn’t behind here. As a matter of fact, I was ahead of the curve in some respects. I’ve had years of counseling/self-awareness/memoir work. But I did start a career just as many same aged women were retiring, making me a late-bloomer with regard to choosing a personal life direction.

The thing that stuck out for me about the stories those women told was the number of oddball opportunities that had seemingly appeared out of nowhere and the fact that many of these women had seized the moment. They’d been in the right place at the right time and recognized it. They’d followed their own path, refraining from child rearing and even marriage until their own careers were off the ground or maybe doing both at the same time. How did they come about the confidence to follow their own path so young, being reared in the same era as me? Different cultures, maybe? Different role models? Certainly, different birth family expectations. Also, most of these women were not Appalachian, which may have a bearing. Nobody in all the generations of my family would have considered moving to another country straight out of college. Hell, my brother and I were the first to ever go to college.

What struck me that day, I would recognize later, was grief. There are whole parts of me that I ignored for years. Choices that I made that were clearly not in my own best interest. They may have been choices out of my control…or choices that were beyond my mental capacity at the time, but they were still my choices. I had already spent years of therapy restructuring my life, so it wasn’t new information. I knew this. I had grieved before. But that’s how grief works. It finds an opening and uses it to heal deeper wounds than you knew you had.

There was clearly something else for me to learn at this juncture. Listening to those ladies made me revisit my younger self, remember how insecure I had felt. But the gist of what they had all been saying was that they had been presented with an opportunity, sometimes not of their own making, recognized it, and seized upon it. With hindsight, I can see a number of opportunities that had presented themselves to me while I was doing laundry, making the twice daily commute to the school pickup/drop line, thinking, “no, my purpose is already being fulfilled.” These were things I could have done while raising children—jobs, trips, experiences–but wouldn’t assert myself. More than that, I felt unworthy, like my life belonged to someone else. In the end, there was no room left for me in the life I’d accepted…or made.

I believe in synchronicity. Some say ask and ye shall receive. Others speak of the law of attraction. Prayer, setting intentions, asking the universe for help, talking to God and my own personal angels, etc. It works. I know. Miracles are everywhere, if you look. And, I’m incredibly grateful for this, my favorite part of my life. So, hear me when I say, be careful what you ask for and be detailed and sincere when you ask.

I had chosen the word “open” for my year’s theme and as soon as I was able to get out of the house, I was offered a variety of women whose stories modeled being open and were a testament to what a blessing it had been in their lives.

If my count is right, I’ve visited 39 states, at least 4 provinces in Canada and several islands in the Caribbean. But I have always lived within two hours of my childhood home and today, I am the third generation to occupy my family’s farm on the Kentucky River. (I have friends who won’t drive themselves to the next county so I know that all things are relative.) I am reminded daily of the ways of my ancestors. I walk their paths, see my reflection in the same mud puddles. I am grateful for them. Their tools are still in the barn for me to use. Are there more opportunities in other places? Absolutely. Sometimes I wonder how I might expand my horizons by living elsewhere, but is that what I want? Not really. I love my place. I’m sure I could learn to love other land, but this land loves me.

No, I think the lesson of the day was to remain open and aware of opportunities as they present themselves. I had, in fact, turned down opportunities through the years. Surely there are more to come. Especially, when I finally see myself and my time as a worthy endeavor and ask the Universe for help.

Speaking of help…almost no sooner than I came to this clarity, my phone rang. It was a government holiday and a snow day to boot so I was not in the office but when I looked at the caller ID, I recognized the number as belonging to a woman who had been trying to reach me at work. I halfway suspected it was a sales call but there was something in her voice message that made me return her call and even leave her my cellphone number.

She lived in Florida. She had ties to Kentucky and she had taken a philanthropic interest in a subject that had led her to my nonprofit’s webpage. She was not a sales person. She’d already made an online donation to our cause and had called to see if she could be of further service to me! It was clear she is a young lady who thinks large, has a world of philanthropic foundations at her fingertips and wants to help me grow and expand my services! She opened my eyes and my mind to larger possibilities for a work project I’ve been contemplating. Just like that, my sorrowful attitude was turned around. Thank you Angels! And I didn’t even have to leave my farm! Even snowed in on an impassible road, opportunities can still present themselves. God is great! The Universe has my back. I am native to this land and I will grow where I’m planted.

Intuition: It’s Elemental June 2023

August 20, 2023 Old Soul Medicine CrowLeave a comment

It stormed last night. This morning I worked the softened soil around the garden plants to remove weeds, built a fire in the back yard pit to burn broken limbs from heavy winds. As the fire crackles, I sit on my back porch with Willow, our German Shepherd, enjoying a slight breeze, barely enough to intone a single, deep meditative OM sound on the windchime.

Willow’s ears perk up, perfect triangle receivers, alert to some far-off presence only she can detect. This is stillness, peaceful and quiet in the way only nature can be. Yet, there is a choir of birdsong so concordant that even the app on my phone can’t keep up with who’s saying what. All creatures of earth and sky are moving, changing, chanting, feeding, creating, evolving. They are making space for me. I am listening, learning, wondering, appreciating, allowing, accepting, making space for them. All elements are present. This is prayer. This is church.

I know that I have to stop the chatter in my own head (my ego), in order to open the door to the other side. What’s on the other side? Imagination, creativity, answers, ideas, words, spirit, connection, intuition, love, faith. In another word, GOD.

Once the door is open, I am aware that it will close all too soon. These “gasps of joy” are fleeting because of my own human frailty, but joyous. They can be a moment of calm or peace that overcomes my well-placed obstacles to connect me mind, body and spirit. It can be an idea or word or a turn of phrase that inspires me to get lost in my writing. Sometimes the words that come inside my head, are in a different voice, I think to remind me that they are a gift and not of my own doing. I muse that maybe that’s what Willow is hearing when she perks up her ears. Maybe she talks to angels. She is certainly in touch with all the nature spirits, my sentinel. I wish it was that easy. Just perk up my ears and hear Spirit talking to me. Oh yeah, it is! It’s called intuition. It takes practice though, and patience and desire and confidence and trust. I’m still working on it. It’s been my lifelong journey.

The spiritual connections that are most prevalent for me come at night, when I’m dreaming. My dreams are often vivid metaphors that enlighten me to truths I have denied. A “knowing” that is buried. A message from the other side. Whether we are aware of our surroundings or not, our brains and our physical bodies are constantly absorbing pieces of information. Body language of the people we speak to, sounds of nature alerting us to weather changes, the dynamics of close relationships, unspoken facts, the things our loved ones won’t admit. If you are empathic, like me, you also feel in your body the energies that surround you, good and bad. What lives in the subconscious gets processed while sleeping, like placing files in a file cabinet in case you need it later. I know there are a lot of people who believe they don’t dream. Scientifically, it has been proven that everybody dreams.

Whether you remember your dreams or not, your body and brain are still processing your experiences and helping them make sense to you. All that knowing lives inside you whether you ever expose it or not. This is part of your intuition. What a deal! Everybody has access to it. Those who call themselves intuitives are only those people who have become still enough, often enough to hone their skills of listening and they’ve learned to trust their hunches and they’ve been right enough times to build confidence. But we’re all intuitive if we choose to pay attention. For me, enjoying this kind of awareness is being in conversation with God. The guidance is there if we get out of our own way. Whether you call it God, Goddess, Holy Spirit, a close personal relationship with Jesus, support from the Universe, Intuition, Synchronicity, talking to Angels, knowing… it’s all part of the same energy. I believe my dog Willow knows this already, that all things are connected. Sitting on my porch, I am one with my surroundings.

There is a quote I like to repeat often, by French Jesuit Priest Pierre Teilhard de Chardin, “You are not a human being having a spiritual experience. You are a spiritual being having a human experience.” This puts everything in my life into perspective. It is a very human trait to want to name everything according to our own comfort levels and judge others for not agreeing with us. That is ego, the most human experience there is. If we are in our authentic truth, connected to that which is spiritual, we have less time for pointing fingers, condemning and judging others. We will see plenty within ourselves that could use lifting up to a higher vibration of being. We have lots of work to do. I know I do.

I heard someone say that prayer is talking to God and meditation is listening. I like that explanation. Talking less and listening more, in any situation, is how we learn. I believe God uses any and all means to help us stay connected. Source wants to be in communication with us. It brings joy. Sometimes, the answer to a prayer comes in the form of words spoken by a happenchance interaction with a friend or stranger. How cool is that? Sometimes our connection to Spirit comes when dreaming. If we’re still enough, and in our bodies fully enough, we can know God’s presence by what we feel, hear or see. Intuition is nothing more than that. It doesn’t come from us. We are not “the power” because when given the chance, our ego will always guide us in the wrong direction. But God lines up the truth all around us and we have access to it through intentional awareness. I believe intuition is communication with God’s power living within us but we have to set aside the ego to hear it. Not an easy task.

Instead of convincing others to come to “our church” to listen to “our way of being” we could teach people how to be still and listen to what God says to them, whether it be in church or on the back porch listening to birdsong and the crackling of wood in the firepit, the wind in the leaves of trees or the gong of a windchime. Earth, Fire, Water, Air. The elements of God are all around us. I am grateful for the Holy Mystery.

A Mountain of Faith

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I have always felt that each woman needs at least 7 other women in their lives who will listen, advise, hold them up, light the way. This is the first in a line of essays where I honor the strong women who have provided a light for my path, be it one moment of for years. I met Edna only once, but she made such an impression…

A vision in dark brown cotton from head to toe smiled from across the freshly swept yard. Her homemade dress was buttoned up to the neck and reached all the way down to her ankles. She wore a brown sweater. A matching brown bonnet covered her head. Her boots were supportive of mountain walking. It was evident that everyone here revered Edna as a matriarch. She was bombarded with a flood of grandchildren, nieces, nephews and neighbors rushing up to give her a hug. Once a year, near her birthday, people stop by to pay their respects. Bearing food and musical instruments, they have come to stay the day. I accompanied my friend Barb for what she called, “walking up the holler a-ways to a singin.”

I knew the minute I met Edna she was something special. She was surrounded by an energy that was evident to me. I felt it. I don’t read auras, but if I did hers would be bright. After a bit of chit chat with my friend Barb about how she’d been, Edna took my hand. A pool of water formed in her eyes and she said, “I know you by your touch. Praise Jesus. I can feel Him in you.” She didn’t let go of my hand for some time and pulled me around the yard introducing me to her family, being as though I’d never been there before. Her brother Joe, seemingly well known in the bluegrass music crowd, was entertaining a gathering on the porch of a log cabin. She lived out of the far reaches of electricity or indoor plumbing, off the grid you might say, but had all the amenities needed for a strong healthy life.

She wanted to show me things, like the treadmill her son had made. A horse walking the treadmill turned a long pole which was attached to the handle of an ice cream freezer. “You can churn with this or anything,” she said. “Isn’t it great?” She was proud of her life and proud of her children.

“How many children do you have?” I asked.

“Seven. They’re all real smart about this mountain and can do anything it takes to live. I taught them that. Respect the mountain and it respects you, gives you a good life.” Then she leaned in, “But, they ain’t had no education. I wouldn’t let’em go,” she whispered.

“They do have an education, though, about life,” I said. She smiled.

“You’re right,” Edna said. “God told me to come up on this mountain and live and raise my kids and He would provide what we needed, so I did. I take care of His Mountain and He takes care of me. I’m the only one knows how to keep this place clean.”

She told me of getting married and moving north to Ohio as part of the out migration looking for jobs. “I had no business being up there,” she said. “It made me sick.” Her words echoed feelings I’d heard before, being a southern girl and all. “The doctors said I had cancer,” she continued. “They gave me three months to live, but God told me to get back to the mountains and I’d be okay. That was fifty years ago.” Her faith was unshakable. Being in her presence brought me a sense of peace.

She and her family are squatters on wild mountain property. She says, “You can live on it, but you can’t own it,” and “The less the government knows about you, the better.” She doesn’t believe in deeds or government assistance.

“How many grandchildren?” I asked.

“Honey, I think its twenty-two if they ain’t slipped no more in on me since I last counted. They’re spread all over. Most of them will be here today, though. I even have some in-laws coming in from Ohio. That should be fun. They don’t know why I like to live up here. They’re town people. I always like to show’em my fancy outhouse.”

A young man walked up with a big smile on his face and hugged Edna.

“Hey, Granny, how are you?” he said. He wore a black AC/DC shirt and tight straight legged black pants, and his dyed blue/black hair hung over part of his face. His ears were pierced.

“I guess you heard I fell,” she said. “I broke a rib, punctured my lung.” She held her side to show him where it hurt.

“I heard that,” he said. His arms wrapped around her in a protective and loving hug. “I hope you learned a lesson from that, wandering around up here all by yourself.”

“Honey, the lesson ain’t for me. God lets me be a lesson to others. I prayed real hard for God to get me out of that ditch. He commenced to healing me and brought me home. I’m almost as good as new. The lesson’s for you. It’s about faith.” He laughed and kissed her on the cheek then moved on to talk to his cousins. Edna didn’t judge him or scold him or any of the others. She accepted them and loved them and they loved her.

“Do you ever leave the holler?” I said.

“Oh, yes, honey, I go up on the mountain and over to the cave, and sometimes I go over to another holler where my girls live. I travel all over these hills. I have two or three places in different hollers where I sleep.” It wasn’t exactly what I meant, but I got my answer.

The log cabin her son had built with hand hewn logs was plainly elegant with a full wrap around porch. It was placed in a wide clearing in the deep woods near the creek bed road we had foot traveled earlier. He had one room dedicated to the food he canned and preserved from his own garden, enough to last all year. A Lincoln style wood plank fence enclosed pastures of horses; some were being ridden by the grand-children. A hay wagon in the yard became a table for all the food being brought in by the arm-loads. The vivid greens of the grass, trees and hills reminded me of a lush spring though it was near the end of summer. Not the hot browned look of our burned-up city lawns looking for relief. The creek we had followed sang to us as water flowed over rounded rocks. With no unsightly electric wires, cell-phone towers or satellite dishes it was easy to transport ourselves into another century.

My grandparents were dead before I was born, though I experienced summers on the family farm without utilities. Playing at the springhouse, catching rain-water in a barrel and decorating an outdoor toilet made me appreciate what it takes to live. I am grateful I was able to connect to my grandparents’ way of life.

“So, you don’t live here with your son?”

“No, honey, I have my own place, several places really.”

“Tell me about the cave,” I said.

“There’s a cave with a spring in it. That’s where we used to do our laundry. I make a bed in there with a sleeping bag. Sometimes I stay there two or three days.”

“What do you do there, while you’re waiting on your laundry to dry?” I asked.

“I pray.” She pointed to an attractive woman, mid-thirties, with long, loose blond curls hanging over her shoulder. She wore a red blouse and dress pants. “When that young’un there was little enough to fit in the sleeping bag with me, we both went up there and stayed. I came out one time and found snow about yay deep.” She put her hands about twelve inches apart. “I’m real lucky my kids let me do what I want.”

“How old are you, Edna?” I asked.

“I’ll be seventy-nine, August the ninth.”

“Do they worry about you a lot?”

“Sometimes I have to wait till they’re all gone if I want to climb on the roof or something. They fuss about that. They know how to find me, though, if I ain’t home. I’m usually at the cave. But that cabin on the mountain is where God wants me most of the time. It’s a place we used to have services. People from all over these hills came up there to sing and pray.” Edna had a yard full of guests, easily over a hundred, many of whom had transported themselves into her holler by horse or foot so it wasn’t hard to imagine she was telling the truth. “One time, I was worried about food and God told me he’d provide me all the food I wanted. Don’t you know, swarms of bees moved into that cabin with me and stayed up in the ceiling between the cardboard and the tin. I used cardboard you know, like people do to insulate the inside of the cabin. Some stopped coming up there cause they were scared of the bees but they didn’t bother me none so I left’em alone and before long I had the prettiest honey combs you ever did see. That honey tasted sweet, like the butter had already been added. People came then I reckon cause they wanted my honey.” She laughed at the memory. “That’s how God provides for me.” We meandered around the yard arm in arm looking at the handiwork of God and Edna’s children. The whole scene was like a memory I’d forgotten to have. I wanted to hold it close, study it so it wouldn’t slip away.

“Do you have any preachers in your family?” I don’t know why I asked that but she seemed like an incarnation of…well, something. I just wondered what religion she claimed.

“My uncle called himself a Holy Ghost preacher. Some people call them Holiness. But, I don’t go in for all that. People didn’t used to care what you called yourself as long as you belonged to God. I think God don’t care what you are as long as you’re listening to Him. And, I listen honey, Praise God!” Tears seemed always just behind her soft eyes as she squeezed my hand. “God walks beside me all the time, invisible. Some people can’t see it. But you see it. I can tell because He walks with you, too.”

Barb came along and reminded me that I had to be back in town by 2:00 p.m. I had completely forgotten to check my watch. Somehow it didn’t seem important anymore. I could have stayed all day and night talking to Edna. I realized I must be monopolizing her time with her family so I made a move to leave. I hugged her and said I’d best be going. I felt so connected to Edna I wanted to be related to her. I wanted to be her.

“Can I come back and see you some time?” I said. “I want to talk to you about signs.”

“Oh yes, honey. They’s signs and you need to know’em.” I got the feeling Edna knew things about me that I didn’t know myself, that there was a collective presence here today, in both of us. “God tells us everything we need to know. It’s up to us to listen,” Edna said. “But, don’t wait too long about gettin’ back up here,” she squeezed my hand again, “Hear me?”

“How will I let you know I’m coming?”

“You call my daughter, “Dee,” she’s the only one with a phone. She lives out on the road. She’ll tell you where to find me.” It was the daughter who’d spent nights with her in the cave when she was little, now obviously a woman of the modern age.

“If you come back up here to see Mama, better plan on staying a couple of days,” Dee said. “Call me and I’ll tell her you’re coming.”

They had a message system. An old push-mower, the kind without the motor and with a box attached to the back for tools sits at the bottom of the hill beneath Edna’s cabin. She puts a note in the toolbox if she needs something and the children put a note in there if they want her to come down to see them or need to get her a message when she’s not home.

The realization that she was truly off the grid was just forming in my mind. I knew Barb had said she homesteaded her place, and home-schooled her children way before it was a fad, but she truly did live outside the lines. I learned also that she birthed her children at home and they did not have social security numbers.

“If I’m not home, I’ll leave red strings tied to the tree limbs so you can follow. I might be at the cave.” I have to admit it scared me a little bit, to think about trekking all over this mountain by myself, following red strings to find Edna, though I hoped I had it in me.

I wanted to imagine I’d finally met my grandmother or maybe even several generations of grandmothers. I couldn’t get enough of her. I forgot about my at home to-do lists and expectations and remembered ancestral things I once knew but had let slip away. I felt a sacred whisper flowing through my veins and I was grateful.

It took thirty minutes walking a fast clip back to the place we’d abandoned the car and at least another thirty to drive back to town. I didn’t talk but inhaled as much of Edna as I could. All I could think of was coming back. I wanted to tell everyone about this hidden treasure of times past as if I’d discovered her myself, but at the same time didn’t want anyone spoiling what she had accomplished, as if it were my job to protect her secrets. Her simple lifestyle relying on intuition and signs to guide her daily decisions comes from being totally in touch with her mountain roots. Roots I share but skills yet to be honed.

On our way out, people continued to trek back into the holler and Barb explained there would probably be 400 people by the end of the day. My secret treasure wasn’t a secret.

“Dolly Parton has even been here,” Barb said. “Edna’s grand-daughter breaks and trains all Dolly’s horses.”

“You’re kidding,” I said. “I should write a story about her.”

“Everybody’s written about her. There’s a whole chapter in a textbook at Appalachian State University.” I felt like I had been spiritually blind and this was a day of vision.

Edna is a monument, a mountain of faith. She doesn’t have to leave her holler or travel the earth to become wise or make a difference. She only has to listen to the earth as it speaks to her. I was only with her for a short while, but she saw me and I saw her and it made a difference. She is not a traveler, she is a destination.

(This essay was written in 2006. Edna has been gone for several years now, but she is still remembered.)

Blackberries, 2007

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Mom made all our birthdays feel special and never failed to create a celebration for each and every one. These days I don’t find birthdays especially exciting. But nature still finds a way by gifting me the ripening of blackberries. In counting down the days to fresh cobbler I offer this essay from 2007. Although the children referenced in this piece are older, I am not. LOL But, I am a grandmother now so it’s time to pass a few traditions to the next generation.

Donna M. Crow

The nurse remembered Mama, the one with purple fingers, who had her babies in July. Those purple, briar pricked fingers, the first to touch my face, must have left their mark. But, not so anybody would notice, not for a while anyway. It’s like the disappearing ink in the cereal box that only re-appears in certain light, and it’s taken years.

We followed Mama out to the field, buckets in hand to pick enough for canning, making jams and cobblers. I complained about the heat, the briars, the possibility of snakes. Funny how all those dangers disappeared when playing spies, hiding in weeds or climbing trees. I was a poor hand to do any real help for Mama, but I was there. I was convinced blowing real hard would remove the chiggers. My belly filled faster than my pail, but Mama never complained. If we helped even a little, we got credit for it. She bragged on us when Daddy came home from work and sometimes, I believed her myself.

Most times though, Mama donned the early morning path without us, dew heavy on knee high boots, finger holes cut out of gloves, and did more work before we woke up than we ever thought about doing. By the time we woke, the berries were washed and prepared for the next step, and breakfast was ready. I preferred the berries sprinkled with sugar to any cobbler or pie. So, she always saved a bowl out for us to eat while she was preserving the rest for a winter’s feast.

On cold mornings, under heavy quilt, when I was reluctant to get out of bed, Mama spread the taste of summer on fresh homemade bread, near a crackling fire place. Nothing tastes sweeter as your backside warms against a morning fire. I became a human rotisserie, taking such luxury for granted. It’s taken years to appreciate the little things. But what I wouldn’t give on a cold winter’s day for a fire someone else started and homemade bread and jam someone else made. Come December, forget the presents, it’s Mama’s blackberry jam cake that tells me Christmas is here.

Each year now, near my birthday, I watch the berry patches waiting for the first black to appear. When it does, I stop on the trail for the taste that tells me summer has truly arrived. And, the marks of my birthright begin to show, one fingertip at a time as I make plans for the harvest.

Though my teenage daughter has only a slight interest in the berry patch, for now, I can see purple stains splotching her memories. I recognize it in her eyes once the chiggers have been washed off and she’s sitting in front of a fresh bowl straight from the patch. I see it in the winter, when we are weary of the cold and summer is as close as thawing out a bag of wild mountain blackberries. She is proud of making her own pie. This year, we tried dumplings for the first time. She loved them.

But, it’s my married son, who has fully reached the age of appreciation and is often my partner in picking. He is becoming known as a great cobbler maker in his own right, maybe better than me. We don’t settle for only those patches conveniently located. We have gone deeper and higher and found the fattest, juiciest berries, our location top secret. Once the season starts, we check our calendars for every opportunity to hit the woods.

I feel close to God out there, in the thicket, milk jug cut open in the front, handle attached to my belt, leaving both hands free to gather what is given, using nature the way it was intended. I know summer is fleeting and blackberry season lasts only about two weeks. It’s like a fever with me, not wanting to miss a single berry.

I have become a berry picking machine. I never eat while I pick. Sometimes I feel greedy, though, leaving few behind for the birds and snakes. I do little picking at the edge of the path, where the berries have blackened too soon in the sun’s harsh rays. The edge dwellers, rushing to their demise are sometimes knotty, tougher to pluck and bitter to the taste. It’s the ones farther in that catch my eye, make me forget about snakes as I wade deep into the thicket. Only when I become completely entwined in briars stuck on all sides, one with the vine, do I find what I’m looking for. They are a lesson in patience, having rested beneath the shade of a Tulip Poplar leaf, breathing in the cooler mountain air. The sun’s warm rays dancing through the leaves in perfect proportion to the moisture sipped through root straws, a sweet vacation. They are the ones, bigger than my thumb, that fills a gallon jug in ten minutes. They make me reach farther, take chances with footing and fall into holes. They are my berries, put there for me.

I’ve heard it said, “You’ll know who you are, when you know where you’re from.” I believe I am from the blackberry patch, marked at birth, by Mama’s purple fingers.